Childhood
--  Help in expressing wants and needs
--  Help in how to relate to others
--  Help in knowing what is right and wrong
--  Help in resolving sibling conflicts

Youth 
-- Guidance in selecting someone to date
-- Guidance in finding and applying for a 
   part time job
-- Guidance in how to create and stay
    within a budget
-- Assistance in selecting a college or 
   specialty school 
-- Assistance in applying for scholarships 
   and finances for college or school
-- Assistance with living expenses while 
   in college or specialty school


Families give us life, nurture, and an interpretation of what life is all about.   They can inspire us to be our best selves or get in our way depending on how functional the family is.   Functional families teach young children how to share and older children how to respect others.  They make life-time commitments to be there as needed.  They also help one another in a variety of ways but most importantly by educating and supporting family members in independent and interdependent behaviors rather than dependent ones.

Historically, American families lived in the same home but as society became more mobile and jobs were not always nearby family members dispersed across the nation. In tight economic times, family members are more likely to come back together into one household.  As parents age and can no longer care for themselves, adult children sometimes take them into their homes. Residing in the same home has the advantage of familiarity with the needs of family members. 
 

Older Adult
Assistance in finding new activities  to replace ones they can no longer do
Assistance in finding assistive devices for daily functioning
Assistance in preparing documents for health care, taxes, and death
 Assistance in choosing a facility or program after hospitalization for rehabilitation

Assistance in arranging home care
Assistance in selecting a residence for assisted living

Assistance in selling a house, furniture, and objects


Kinds of help needed by stage of life

Young Adult
-- Advice in proposing or accepting
   a marriage or commitment proposal
-- Advice in planning a wedding or
   commitment ceremony
-- Advice on how to buy a home 
-- Connections for landing a full time
   position in their specialty area
   
Adult
-- Emotional support when there is a  
   loss of a loved one or change in an
   important relationship
-- Emotional support when there is a 
   loss of job or need to change jobs
-- Emotional support when there is
   an illness or unforeseen tragedy
-- Temporary housing  support if 
   there is a divorce, home damage, or
   loss of income for mortgage or rent


Family

TO HELP OR NOT TO HELP